Let me begin by saying, I hate when people trying to be politically correct say “African-American” instead of “black.” While the intention may be to correct a more obvious misconception, not every person who has skin in the range of mocha to midnight is African-American, African, or American. Much like “white” people, people with dark skin come from a variety of different backgrounds and while their ancestors may have originated in Africa, they did not necessarily stay there. And besides, Africa isn’t a country.
In my experience, when people talk about themselves they refer to their ethnic origins. I’m certain I’ve never heard anyone say, “Why yes, I’m European.” There is a general recognition that Europe is a large place and “whites” live in other places than Europe. However, when talking about each other, we use limited generalizations that don’t always make sense. The intention is usually to correct the misconception that people have black or white skin. Clearly this is not the case. However, trying to change this problem by calling a ”black” person African-American, or an “Asian” person Chinese, does not solve the problem.
If someone calls me “white” I understand. They do not know my ethnic history and should not be expected to. Feel free to correct me, readers, but in the same way, I assume that when a “white” person calls someone “black” or someone who has Asian features “Asian” he or she would not take offense to the term as long as it is not said in a derogatory tone.
That being said, this post is not only an examination of racism, but of sexism and other forms of close-mindedness in various guises and intensities. I think one argument holds true for the others. I truly believe it is possible not to be racist, sexist etc. but that it is impossible for someone to lack any type of bigotry at all. The simple explanation for this phenomenon is that we live in a world where we are conditioned to react in certain ways if not by the media, then by society, if not by society, then by our family, if not by our family then by our own self-centeredness. This is not necessarily a bad thing.
One’s perspective of the world is rooted in the image she has of herself. I am an American woman of Italian descent. I am a writer, an artist, an idealist. I, along with every other human being, am naturally inclined to be attracted to things that are like me. It is natural and comfortable for us to seek others who share the same core values. But this similarity must be ranked in order of importance. I like mint ice cream, but my love of books is more important than my love of ice cream.
Thus, I form deeper friendships with people who are like me intellectually and more shallow ones with those who share my taste in food. However, someone else’s love of Star Wars might drive him to seek out other “Jedists.” How is it any less valid for someone to place importance on the color of a person’s skin or her cultural background? The idea of this makes us uncomfortable though. Many of us have been raised to do just the opposite.
I am not criticizing this approach. Indeed, I think it is the most reasonable and rewarding one (I like having a diverse group of friends), but why should I be personally insulted that a “black” person doesn’t want to be friends with me because I am “white” or vice versa? Why would I want to be friends with this person anyway? Should I be personally insulted that a man thinks a woman’s role is in the kitchen or that Italians are thieves? What does it matter to me? This is not a man I will be dating or spending any time at all with.
I am not saying I wouldn’t be hurt. Emotion is the first to react. Logic only follows if we allow it to, but if we do, we will realize that what others think makes no difference to our value or ability to pursue happiness and satisfaction.
The turning point occurs when one lets his opinion lead to violent actions or social discrimination (as opposed to personal discrimination). It is a democratic privilege for a person to vote for whichever candidate she chooses, or decide who to be friends with, based on whatever criteria she values, but when these values become the basis for denying civil rights and liberties or become institutionalized, preference has crossed over into social discrimination. In short, separation should be allowed but not enforced.
The major issue in these areas is retribution for past wrongs. What can be done to rectify the abuses committed against slaves, women, Jews etc.? Is it possible to forgive but not forget?
First, we must recognize that as humans we have a collective tale of suffering and hardship. Some of this misery has happened to some groups more recently than to others, but no one group has the monopoly on disadvantage. Each person has the freedom to choose his actions. He can do good, or evil, or both, but he does not have anyone but himself to blame for the consequences of what he does. Simply because you or your ancestors had to face extreme abuse, does not make it acceptable for you to push the burden of your problems onto others, especially those who are not responsible.
If it is not already clear, I disagree with affirmative action. Life, unfortunately, is not fair and we all have our woes. To say that because women were historically underpaid and underrepresented and thus employers must fill a quota is ridiculous. “Leveling the playing field” is irresponsible and, at times, reckless. I do not feel that simply because my grandmother and the women before her lived in a world of discrimination I have the right to compensation. I want the person who is best qualified for the job to have it, not someone who doesn’t qualify but deserves “justice.”
Justice is necessary. However, false equality is not the answer. There is a saying: “The best revenge is a life well-lived.” and it is true. If we don’t like the system, why should we participate in it? Instead, let us build a new system.
It is here that I return to the idea of allowed, not enforced, separation. As long as the opportunity to break away is not denied us, we cannot say that the system is unjust. It may be unfair, but this unfairness is something we must learn to use as motivation. It may be hard, but if it the system you are in is that terrible, it would be worse to remain within it. There is a difference between “God-given or natural” rights and politically granted rights. The “right” of a person to work in a well-paid position is not a natural right, it is a politically granted one.
If you are “Latino” and fed up with the hegemony of “white” theater, start a “Latino” theater company. That is your right. If you are a woman and feel that you have unequal opportunity in the workplace, start a women-run company. That is your right. However, your right is not a federally-funded theater or a token position due to gender. It is simply wrong of us not to accept the responsibility for achieving what we want, then to complain that the system is broken.
People may say “What do you know? You’re “white”, you have an advantage.” That is true, but I did not choose my skin color any more than you did. I refuse to feel guilty because of my circumstances. I did not create them.
I am also a woman. In a corporate setting, this puts me at a statistical disadvantage. However, instead of whining about discrimination, I make myself into the best individual I can be.The beauty of living in a nearly free-market and socially liberal economy is that we have the ability to make the most of ourselves. Whether or not you take the opportunity is a personal decision. If you work hard, you are not guaranteed success, but it is likely that you will achieve it.
That is not to say that injustices do not happen and those who are responsible should not be held accountable. They do and they should. However, we should not let these injustices be the cause of our unproductive, unhappy behavior. Racism and sexism are prevalent and there are circumstances that necessitate justice. Racial discrimination by law enforcement is just one of many examples. The death Trayvon Martin should be a cause of great outrage to people of every color. It is horrible when anyone dies, and even worse when it is under this type of circumstance. Yet, “blacks” do not have the monopoly on sorrow. What about the Holocaust? What about communism? What about sex-selective abortions?
We cannot continue to live with anger over what has been done to “people like us.” If there is a legitimate cause for anger, by all means, take up the cause. Otherwise we must simply make the most of our circumstances whatever they be.
